Good morning everyone J My apologies for not getting a post up yesterday, it just wasn’t my day for productivity. We had swimming lessons in the morning followed by a morning tea picnic at the park with some lovely friends. Then I was babysitting a friends beautiful little girl for a few hours (note to self – very pleased Mat has had his vasectomy…looking after three kids is so much more time consuming than two!) I then started on the household chores and before I knew it, it was time to dive into the evening routine of dinner bath and bed for the kids. So unfortunately, sitting down to type my blog eluded me, but, today I am back in action. It is 6am and I have Elliott whinging at my feet (just for something different), Sophie is still asleep (what a treat!), Mat has left for work and the dog, Toby, is pacing around the house trying not to bark at Elliott’s continuous whinging. Fun times J
Anyway, I wanted to talk about how frustrated I am with myself at the moment. It’s like this: I have a picture in my mind of how I want my life to be, I know exactly what I need to do to make it happen, I know it is achievable and I know it will increase my happiness and wellbeing on an overall basis… but I am just not making it happen. Why? Why am I sabotaging myself and not achieving to my full potential? Why am I selling myself short and just “getting through” each day rather than really living each day? It is very frustrating because I know I am capable of change, I know it will be for the better but yet, here I am, stuck in the same rut of negative thinking and a lack of action. It is time to start drawing on some of the advice that I give to others when they are feeling down…
Rule number 1: As you think, then so it is. This is a very powerful tool and it refers to our thoughts and the Law of Attraction. Our thoughts are just that, thoughts, and they can only be expressed when they manifest themselves in an external manner (ie – through speech, actions etc). It stands to reason then, that if we play a reel of negative thoughts in our mind they will manifest themselves in a negative way in life. Emphasise positive thinking and watch the shift towards a more positive existence occur.
Rule number 2: Be kind to yourself. There is no way on God’s green Earth I would talk to anyone else the way I talk to myself. I am always looking for flaws, shortcoming s and things I don’t like about myself and when I find them, the negative self-talk begins. On and on this negative self-talk goes until I have manifested my own wallowing pity of misery. This rule definitely relates to rule number 1 and I know that if I change my thoughts, I will change my life.
Rule number 3: Throw away the notion of “selfishness”. For some ridiculous reason, us beautiful mothers seem to think that if we take 5 minutes for ourselves we are being selfish. This is absolutely not true! We are always putting our children and our families before us but in reality, how can we do an effective job of taking care of them when we are not taking care of ourselves? We can only give what we have so if we are operating at 60% due to lack of healthy eating, exercise and downtime, then all we will be able to give to our family is 60%. I think we need to put ourselves first not to the detriment of our family, but rather to the benefit of them and ourselves.
Rule number 4: Make the most of every day. A life lived without passion and enthusiasm is certainly a dull one so find something that makes you excited to get up each day. Let’s face it, no one wakes up going “Yay, I can’t wait to change a pooey nappy today and do endless loads of washing while mediating sibling fights and treading on Lego”. Find things in your day to enjoy and make time to engage in your passion J
I will stop there because there are so many “rules” coming to mind that I think I could write a book! This blog entry has been very therapeutic and put me in a good mood for the day. I will try to dismiss all negative thinking today and be present for my children. Bring on a very happy and positive day J
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