Super Mum...what rubbish!

It may come across in the theme of some blog entries that I have been a little down on myself lately. I am teetering on the edge of running away to join the circus in an effort to bring some calm into my life! I thrive on order, structure, planning and control, all of which are as rare as hens teeth when it comes to being a Mum. You would think after four years in this role I would get it by now...but evidently I don’t. Then I got to thinking, if I had a friend come to me with the same sort of issues, what advice would I give to her...?

1.       Stop beating yourself up! No one can be 100% perfect at everything they do.

2.       It is totally unrealistic to think that you can maintain the same level of enthusiasm and happiness each and every day for the sake of your children. Your kids need to learn that there are times when people, including Mum, are cranky, tired and over it.

3.       ALL of us, each and every one of us Mothers, want to run away to join the circus from time to time. It is totally normal to want to check out of this motherhood gig.

4.       Look after you! Start making you a priority. A happy Mum means a happy household.

5.       It is a marathon, not a race. The time you have at home with your children is so short in the grand scheme of things. Enjoy these few years you have at home caring for your babies, they will be off to school before you know it and things will never be the same again.

6.       You are doing a wonderful job with your children. They are happy, healthy, loved and cared for in the best way possible. You enrich their lives and they aren’t going to remember the occasional bad day.

7.       Love. Love yourself. Love your children. Love your husband. Love your family and friends. Fill your life with love, love, love and the benefits will shine through.  

Perhaps I should start taking some of my own advice and be kinder to myself...”Update ready to download for Kate: Version 2.0” J